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 ಮದುವೆ ಎನ್ನುವುದು ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಬ್ಬ ಹೆಣ್ಣು /ಗಂಡಿನ ಜೀವನದಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದು ಸುಂದರವಾದ ಅಧ್ಯಾಯ.ಮೂರುಗಂಟು ಬೆಸೆದು ಏಳುಹೆಜ್ಜೆಯ ನೀಡುವ ಸಮಯ

ಅವನ /ಅವಳ ಕಲ್ಪನೆಯ ಬಾಳಸಂಗಾತಿಗೆ ಕಾಯ,ವಾಚ,ಮನಸಾ ಇವತ್ತಿನಿಂದ ನಾನು ಸಂಪೂಣ೯ವಾಗಿ ನಿನ್ನವಳು /ನಿನ್ನವನು ನಿನ್ನ ಜೀವನದ ಪ್ರತಿಕ್ಷಣ ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿದು ಜೊತೆಯಾಗಿ ನಡೆಯುವೆ ಎಂದು ಪ್ರಮಾಣ ಮಾಡುವ ಸುಮಧುರ ಘಳಿಗೆ.

ಈ ಸಂಭ್ರಮಕ್ಕೆ ನೀವು ಸಾಕ್ಷಿಯಾಗುವ ಮುನ್ನ ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಯೋಚಿಸಿ.

ಬಾಳ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ಆಯ್ಕೆ : ನಿಮ್ಮ ಬಾಳ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯಾಗಬಲ್ಲವರು, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳಿಗೆ ಸ್ಪಂದಿಸುವರು.ನಿಮ್ಮ ಮನಸ್ಥಿತಿಯನ್ನು ಅರಿಯಬಲ್ಲರು.ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಗೌರವ ಹೊಂದಿರುವರು,ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭವಿಷ್ಯದ ಕನಸಿನ ಹಕ್ಕಿಗೆ ರೆಕ್ಕೆಯಾಗಬಲ್ಲರು, ಜೀವನವೀಡಿ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಬೇಕು-ಬೇಡಗಳನ್ನು ಅಥೈ೯ಸಿಕೊಂಡು ನಿಮ್ಮೊಡನೆ ಹೊಂದಿಕೊಂಡು ಬದುಕಬಲ್ಲರು ಜೀವನಪೂತಿ೯ ಅವರೊಂದಿಗೆ ಸುಖ,ಸಂತೋಷ,ನೆಮ್ಮದಿಯಿಂದ ಬದುಕಬಲ್ಲೆ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಮುಂದುವರೆಯಿರಿ.

ಕೌಟುಂಬಿಕ ಹಿನ್ನಲೆ : ಮದುವೆ ಎನ್ನುವುದು ಎರಡು ಮನಸುಗಳ ಜೊತೆಗೆ ಎರಡು ಮನೆತನಗಳಿಗೆ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಸಿದವಿಷಯ ಆಗಿರುವುದರಿಂದ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಇಬ್ಬರು ತಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ತಿಳಿಯುವುದು ಅಗತ್ಯವಾಗಿದೆ. ಅವರ ಹಿನ್ನಲೆ, ಆಥಿ೯ಕ ಸ್ಥಿತಿ, ಸಾಮಾಜಿಕ ಹೊಂದಾಣಿಕೆ,

ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿ-ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯ, ಎರಡು ಮನೆಯವರ ಅಭಿಪ್ರಾಯ ತಿಳಿದುಕೊಂಡು ಅನುಮತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಮುಂದುವರೆಯುವುದು ಉತ್ತಮ.

ಮಾನಸಿಕ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆ : ಮದುವೆಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ನಿಮಗಿರುವ ಸಂದೇಹಗಳನ್ನು ಬಗೆಹರಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು,ತೊಂದರೆ-ತೊಡಕುಗಳನ್ನು ನಿವಾರಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು ನೀವು ಉಳಿದ ಜೀವನದ ಅದ್ಭುತ ಕ್ಷಣಗಳನ್ನು ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಕಳೆಯಲು ಬಯಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವದೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನ ಪ್ರಾರಂಭಿಸಲು ಸಂಪೂಣ೯ವಾಗಿ ತಯಾರಾಗಿದ್ದರೆ, ನೀವು ಮುಂದುವರೆಯಬಹುದು.

ಮುಖ್ಯವಾಗಿ : ವೃದ್ಧಾಪ್ಯದವರೆಗೆ ಸಹಜೀವನ ನಡೆಸಲು ಸರಿಯಾದ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಯನ್ನು ಕಂಡುಕೊಂಡಿದ್ದೆ ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನದ ಹಾದಿ ಸುಗಮವಾಗಿ ಸಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆ ಏಕ ಪಕ್ಷೀಯ ವಿಷಯವಲ್ಲ.

ಇಬ್ಬರ ಸಂಬಂಧ ಕೊನೆವರೆಗೂ ಗಟ್ಟಿಯಾಗಿ ಇರುತ್ತದೆ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಮದುವೆಯಾಗಿ.

 "ಯಾವ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆಯು ಇಲ್ಲದೆ ವೈವಾಹಿಕ ಬದುಕಿಗೆ ಅಡಿ ಇಡುವ ಕೆಲವರು ಆರಂಭದಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ಸಾಕಷ್ಟು ಎಡವಟ್ಟುಗಳನ್ನು ಮಾಡಿಕೊಂಡು ಪರಿತಪಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ.ವಿವಾಹ ಜೀವನದ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿ,ಮಹತ್ವ,ತನ್ನ ಪಾತ್ರ ಮತ್ತು ಹೊಂದಾಣಿಕೆ ಕುರಿತು ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟ ಚಿತ್ರಣ ಇಟ್ಟುಕೊಂಡು ಮದುವೆಯಾಗುವುದು ಉತ್ತಮ.ಇದೆಲ್ಲವನ್ನು ಸಾಧ್ಯವಾಗಿಸುವುದೆ ನಮ್ಮ ಗುರಿ ಮತ್ತು ಆಶಯ.

"ನಿಮ್ಮೊಂದಿಗೆ ನಾವೀದ್ದೆವೆ ಇಂದೆ ನೊಂದಾಯಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ,ಅತ್ಯುತ್ತಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯನ್ನು ಆಯ್ಕೆ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿರಿ".

ನೀವು ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ಎಂದಿಗೂ ಸಂತೋಷದಿಂದ ಬದುಕದಿರಬಹುದು ಎಂದು ಊಹಿಸುವುದು ಕಷ್ಟವಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಇನ್ನೊಬ್ಬ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು ಒಂದು ಸವಾಲಾಗಿರಬಹುದು, ವಿಶೇಷವಾಗಿ ಸಂಬಂಧಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ನಿಮಗೆ ಹೆಚ್ಚಿನ ಅನುಭವವಿಲ್ಲದಿದ್ದರೆ. ಮದುವೆಗಳು ಕೆಲಸ, ಬದ್ಧತೆ ಮತ್ತು ಪ್ರೀತಿಯನ್ನು ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತವೆ, ಆದರೆ ಅವರಿಗೆ ನಿಜವಾಗಿಯೂ ಸಂತೋಷ ಮತ್ತು ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಲು ಗೌರವವೂ ಬೇಕು.

ಪ್ರೀತಿ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವವನ್ನು ಆಧರಿಸಿದ ವಿವಾಹವು ಕೇವಲ ಸಂಭವಿಸುವುದಿಲ್ಲ. ಇಬ್ಬರೂ ಸಂಗಾತಿಗಳು ತಮ್ಮ ಪಾಲನ್ನು ಮಾಡಬೇಕು. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಮದುವೆ ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಲು ಪ್ರತಿ ದಿನ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡಲು ಕೆಲವು ಪ್ರಮುಖ ಕೀಲಿಗಳನ್ನು ಕೆಳಗೆ ನೀಡಲಾಗಿದೆ.

ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಆಗಾಗ್ಗೆ ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾಡಿ

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಮಾತನಾಡುವುದು ನಿಮ್ಮ ದಾಂಪತ್ಯವನ್ನು ಆರೋಗ್ಯಕರವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಿಡಲು ಒಂದು ಉತ್ತಮ ಮಾರ್ಗವಾಗಿದೆ. ನೀವು ಏನನ್ನು ಅನುಭವಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂಬುದರ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಪ್ರಾಮಾಣಿಕವಾಗಿರಿ, ಆದರೆ ನೀವು ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ದಯೆ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವದಿಂದಿರಿ. ಉತ್ತಮ ಸಂವಹನದ ಭಾಗವೆಂದರೆ ಉತ್ತಮ ಕೇಳುಗನಾಗಿರುವುದು ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ನಿಮ್ಮಿಂದ ಏನನ್ನು ಬಯಸುತ್ತಾರೆ ಮತ್ತು ಏನು ಬೇಕು ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ಅರ್ಥಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಸಮಯ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು. ಆಗಾಗ್ಗೆ ಮಾತನಾಡುವ ಮೂಲಕ ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾರ್ಗಗಳನ್ನು ತೆರೆದಿಡಿ, ಮತ್ತು ಬಿಲ್ಲುಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಮಕ್ಕಳಂತಹ ವಿಷಯಗಳ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಮಾತ್ರವಲ್ಲ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಆಲೋಚನೆಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ.

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಗೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನದಲ್ಲಿ ಅವನನ್ನು ಅಥವಾ ಅವಳನ್ನು ಹೊಂದಿದ್ದಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ನೀವು ಕೃತಜ್ಞರಾಗಿರುವಿರಿ ಎಂದು ಹೇಳಿ

ಪರಸ್ಪರ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಬಂಧ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಒಟ್ಟಿಗೆ ಪ್ರಶಂಸಿಸಿ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ ಭೋಜನವನ್ನು ಅಡುಗೆ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ, ಮಕ್ಕಳಿಗೆ ಅವರ ಮನೆಕೆಲಸಕ್ಕೆ ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ಅಥವಾ ಕಿರಾಣಿ ಶಾಪಿಂಗ್ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ಕೃತಜ್ಞತೆಯನ್ನು ತೋರಿಸಿ. ಆ ದಿನ ನೀವು ಮೆಚ್ಚಿದ ಕನಿಷ್ಠ ಒಂದು ವಿಷಯವನ್ನು ಒಬ್ಬರಿಗೊಬ್ಬರು ಹೇಳಲು ಪ್ರತಿ ಸಂಜೆ ಕೆಲವು ನಿಮಿಷಗಳನ್ನು ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಇದು ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡಬಹುದು.

ನಿಮ್ಮಿಬ್ಬರಿಗೆ ಜೋಡಿಯಾಗಿ ಸಮಯ ನೀಡಿ

ಕೆಲಸ ಮತ್ತು ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿಗಳೊಂದಿಗೆ, ಪ್ರಣಯದ ಅಂಶವನ್ನು ಕಳೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು ಸುಲಭವಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಹೊರಗೆ ಹೋಗಲು ಅಥವಾ ಮನೆಯಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ಇರಲು ವಿಶೇಷ ದಿನಾಂಕಗಳನ್ನು ಯೋಜಿಸಿ. ನೀವು ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನು ಹೊಂದಿದ್ದರೆ, ನೀವು ವಿಶ್ರಾಂತಿ, ಮಾತನಾಡುವಾಗ ಮತ್ತು ಪರಸ್ಪರರ ಕಂಪನಿಯನ್ನು ಆನಂದಿಸುತ್ತಿರುವಾಗ ಅವರನ್ನು ಆಟದ ದಿನಾಂಕದಂದು ಕಳುಹಿಸಿ.

ಕೆಲವು ವೈಯಕ್ತಿಕ ಸಮಯಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ಯೋಜನೆ ಮಾಡಿ

ಏಕಾಂಗಿ ಸಮಯವು ಒಂದೆರಡು ಸಮಯದಷ್ಟೇ ಮುಖ್ಯವಾಗಿದೆ. ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಬ್ಬರಿಗೂ ರೀಚಾರ್ಜ್ ಮಾಡಲು, ಯೋಚಿಸಲು ಮತ್ತು ವೈಯಕ್ತಿಕ ಹಿತಾಸಕ್ತಿಗಳನ್ನು ಆನಂದಿಸಲು ಸಮಯ ಬೇಕಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ನೀವು ಮದುವೆಯಾದಾಗ ಆ ಸಮಯವು ಹೆಚ್ಚಾಗಿ ಕಳೆದುಹೋಗುತ್ತದೆ, ವಿಶೇಷವಾಗಿ ನಿಮಗೆ ಮಕ್ಕಳಿದ್ದರೆ. ಸ್ನೇಹಿತರೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹೊರಗೆ ಹೋಗಿ, ತರಗತಿ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಿ, ಅಥವಾ ಸ್ವಯಂಸೇವಕ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡಿ, ನೀವು ಏನನ್ನು ಶ್ರೀಮಂತಗೊಳಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂದು ಕಂಡುಕೊಳ್ಳಿ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ನೀವು ಮತ್ತೆ ಸೇರಿಕೊಂಡಾಗ, ನೀವು ಒಬ್ಬರನ್ನೊಬ್ಬರು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ಪ್ರಶಂಸಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ.

ಒಪ್ಪದಿರುವುದು ಸರಿ ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ಅರ್ಥಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ

ನೀವು ಎಲ್ಲವನ್ನೂ ಒಪ್ಪುವುದಿಲ್ಲ, ಆದರೆ ಭಿನ್ನಾಭಿಪ್ರಾಯಗಳ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ನ್ಯಾಯಯುತವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವಯುತವಾಗಿರುವುದು ಮುಖ್ಯ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ದೃಷ್ಟಿಕೋನವನ್ನು ಆಲಿಸಿ. ಕೋಪಗೊಳ್ಳದಿರಲು ಪ್ರಯತ್ನಿಸಿ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮನ್ನು ತುಂಬಾ ನಿರಾಶೆಗೊಳಿಸಬೇಡಿ. ನಿಮಗೆ ಬೇಕಾದರೆ ದೂರ ಹೋಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಶಾಂತವಾಗಿರಿ, ನಂತರ ನೀವಿಬ್ಬರೂ ಉತ್ತಮ ಮನಸ್ಸಿನ ಚೌಕಟ್ಟಿನಲ್ಲಿರುವಾಗ ಸಮಸ್ಯೆಯನ್ನು ಮತ್ತೊಮ್ಮೆ ಚರ್ಚಿಸಿ. ಸಮಸ್ಯೆಗಳ ಮೇಲೆ ರಾಜಿ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ಇದರಿಂದ ನೀವಿಬ್ಬರೂ ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಕೊಡಿ.

ವಿಶ್ವಾಸವನ್ನು ಬೆಳೆಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ

ಮದುವೆ ಚಿಕಿತ್ಸಕ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಶೋಧಕ ಜಾನ್ ಗಾಟ್ಮನ್, ತಿರಸ್ಕಾರ, ರಕ್ಷಣಾತ್ಮಕತೆ ಮತ್ತು ಕಲ್ಲು ತೂರಾಟ ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಗಂಭೀರ ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಎಂದು ಕಂಡುಕೊಂಡಿದ್ದಾರೆ. ಈ ವಿನಾಶಕಾರಿ ಚಟುವಟಿಕೆಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ದಂಪತಿಗಳು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ತೊಡಗಿಸಿಕೊಂಡರೆ, ಅವರು ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನ ಪಡೆಯುವ ಸಾಧ್ಯತೆಯಿದೆ. ಅವರ ದಶಕಗಳ ಸಂಶೋಧನೆ ಮತ್ತು ದಂಪತಿಗಳೊಂದಿಗೆ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡುವುದು ಸಂಗಾತಿಗಳು ಜಗಳವಾಡದೆ ಹೇಗೆ ಹೋರಾಡಬೇಕು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕ್ರಿಯೆಗಳ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿಯನ್ನು ಹೊತ್ತುಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತಾರೆ ಎಂದು ತೋರಿಸಿದ್ದಾರೆ. ಜಗಳದ ನಂತರ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಬಂಧವನ್ನು ಸರಿಪಡಿಸುವ ಪರಸ್ಪರರ ಇಚ್ಛೆಗೆ ಅವರು ಶೀಘ್ರವಾಗಿ ಪ್ರತಿಕ್ರಿಯಿಸುವ ಸಾಧ್ಯತೆಯಿದೆ.

ಕ್ಷಮಿಸಲು ಕಲಿಯಿರಿ

ಎಲ್ಲರೂ ತಪ್ಪುಗಳನ್ನು ಮಾಡುತ್ತಾರೆ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ಘಾಸಿಗೊಳಿಸಬಹುದು ಅಥವಾ ನಿಮಗೆ ಅಸಮಾಧಾನ ಉಂಟುಮಾಡುವಂತಹದ್ದನ್ನು ಮಾಡಬಹುದು ಮತ್ತು ಅದು ನಿಮಗೆ ಕೋಪವನ್ನು ಉಂಟುಮಾಡಬಹುದು. ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ನಿಭಾಯಿಸುವುದು ಮುಖ್ಯ, ಅವರನ್ನು ಹೋಗಲು ಬಿಡಿ ಮತ್ತು ಮುಂದುವರಿಯಿರಿ. ಭೂತಕಾಲವನ್ನು ಮುಂದುವರಿಸಬೇಡಿ.

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಮತ್ತು ನೀವು ಒಟ್ಟಿಗೆ ನಿರ್ಮಿಸಿದ ಜೀವನಕ್ಕೆ ಬದ್ಧರಾಗಿರಲು ಮರೆಯದಿರಿ. ಭಾವನಾತ್ಮಕವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ದೈನಂದಿನ ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಬೆಂಬಲಿಸಿ. ನೀವು, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಬಂಧವು ಕಾಲಾನಂತರದಲ್ಲಿ ಬೆಳೆಯಬಹುದು ಮತ್ತು ಬದಲಾಗಬಹುದು, ಆದರೆ ಈ ವಿಚಾರಗಳು ನಿಮ್ಮ ದಾಂಪತ್ಯವು ವರ್ಷಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಿರಲು ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡುತ್ತದೆ.

ನಮ್ಮ ಹಿಂದೂ ವಿವಾಹ ಪದ್ಧತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಾವು ಹಲವಾರು ವಿಧಿ ವಿಧಾನಗಳನ್ನು ಅನುಸರಿಸುತ್ತೇವೆ. ಯಾವುದೇ ಧರ್ಮ ಜಾತಿಯೇ ಇರಲಿ ಒಂದೊಂದು ಪಂಗಡದವರು ಒಂದೊಂದು ವಿಧವಾದ ವೈವಾಹಿಕ ವಿಧಾನಗಳನ್ನು ಅನುಸರಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಮದುವೆಯ ಈ ಪವಿತ್ರ ಬಂಧನದಲ್ಲಿ ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಂದು ಶಾಸ್ತ್ರ ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯಗಳಿಗೂ ಅದರದ್ದೇ ಆದ ಮೌಲ್ಯವಿದ್ದು ಈ ಮೌಲ್ಯವು ವಿವಾಹದ ಪ್ರಮುಖ ಸೂತ್ರವಾಗಿದೆ.

ವಿವಾಹವೆಂದರೆ ಬರಿಯ ಗಂಡು ಹೆಣ್ಣಿನ ಪವಿತ್ರ ಬಂಧನ ಮಾತ್ರವಲ್ಲ ಎರಡು ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳ ಮಿಲನವಾಗಿದೆ. ವಿವಾಹದಿಂದಾಗಿ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಒಂದಾಗುತ್ತವೆ ಮತ್ತು ಎರಡೂ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಸಾಮರಸ್ಯ ಉಂಟಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆ ಏಳೇಳು ಜನ್ಮಗಳ ಅನುಬಂಧ, ವಧು ಮತ್ತು ವರನ ಸಂಬಂಧವನ್ನು ದೇವರೇ ನಿರ್ಧರಿಸುತ್ತಾನೆ ಎನ್ನುವ ನಂಬಿಕೆ ಕೂಡ ಇದೆ. ವರ ಮತ್ತು ವಧು ಸಂಪೂರ್ಣವಾಗಿ ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ಸೂಚಿಸಿದ ಬಳಿಕ ಮದುವೆ ಕಾರ್ಯಗಳು ನಡೆಯುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆಯು ಮುಗಿದು ಗ್ರಹಸ್ಥಾಶ್ರಮಕ್ಕೆ ಕಾಲಿಡುವ ವರ ಮತ್ತು ಮಧುವಿಗೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನ ಆರಂಭಿಸುವ ತವಕ. ಅದರಲ್ಲೂ ವಧು ಮಾತ್ರ ಹುಟ್ಟಿನಿಂದ ಬೆಳೆದು ಬಂದ ಮನೆ, ತಂದೆ-ತಾಯಿ, ಸೋದರ-ಸೋದರಿಯನ್ನು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಬಂದು, ಗಂಡನ ಮನೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಆರಂಭಿಸುತ್ತಾಳೆ. ಇನ್ನು ಮದುವೆಯಾಗುವ ಗಂಡು ತನ್ನ ಮನೆ ಮನವನ್ನು ತುಂಬುವ ಒಡತಿಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಸಾಕಷ್ಟು ಕನಸು ಕಾಣುತ್ತಾನೆ.

Dussehra, which symbolizes the victory of good over evil, is an Indian festival celebrated in the 7th month of the Hindu Lunar Calendar. It got its name from the two Sanskrit words Dasha(ten) and Hara(defeat). This festival is celebrated all over India in a very grand manner. This year it starts on October 7th and ends on October 15th. In South India, particularly in the state of Karnataka, the city of Mysore Palace is illuminated by lights, cultural activities, and so on. People from all over India gather in large numbers to watch this joyous festival.

Dussehra is considered to be an auspicious day for Indians. Since it symbolizes the triumph of good over evil, any new venture started on this day is bound to be successful. So it is considered to be auspicious to start important activities like weddings, purchase of gold and new business, and so on. It brings bountiful joy and prosperity.

October is a rather beautiful time of year if you live in the northern hemisphere. It’s the time of year that the color of leaves begins to change into a magnificent array of hues.The world-famous Indian political and spiritual leader Mahatma Gandhi was born on October 2, 1869. His worldwide renown is attributed to the nonviolent way in which he resisted the colonial British rule of India. October has just one birthstone, but with this dazzling stone who needs another? October’s birthstone is the Opal, which was valued by the Ancient Romans as the most priceless of all. The opal comes in a myriad of striking colors that often seem to swirl together and is a symbol of both faithfulness, purity, and hope.October is a pretty fantastic time of the year. Those born in October can be born under one of two very different star signs. If you’re born before October 23rd, then you have the sign of Libra. Those born on October 23rd or later have the sign of Scorpio. Libras are said to value harmony and diplomacy and are said to be both intelligent and kind. Scorpios are quite different, valuing trust and honesty above other things, as well as being quite intense yet imaginative people.

Karwa Chauth is a festival dedicated to the beautiful bond of marriage. It commemorates the unconditional love and support that holds marriage together. It is observed on the fourth day after the full moon or Poornima in the month of Kartik, according to the Hindu lunar calendar. The rituals of Karva Chauth are observed by married women for the long life of their husbands. On this day, they worship Lord Shiva and Lord Ganesha and complete the fast by sighting and making offerings to the moon.

Diwali (also: Deepawali) is one of India's biggest festivals. The word 'Deepawali' means rows of lighted lamps. It is a Festival of Lights and Hindus celebrate it with joy. During this festival, people light up their houses and shops with Diyas (small cup-shaped oil lamp made of baked clay). They worship Lord Ganesha for welfare and prosperity and Goddess Lakshmi for wealth and wisdom.

This festival is celebrated in the Hindu month of Kartikamasam which falls sometime during October or November. It is celebrated to mark the return of Lord Rama after 14 years of exile and his victory over the Demon Ravana. In many parts of India, Deepawali is celebrated for five consecutive days. Hindus regard it as a celebration of life and use the occasion to strengthen relationships. In some parts of India, it marks the beginning of a new year. People clean and decorate their house before the festival. They do colorful rangoli - art work on floors.

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ಮದುವೆಯ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆಯನ್ನು ಉಂಗುರ ಬದಲಾವಣೆ ಇಲ್ಲವೇ ನಿಶ್ಚಿತಾರ್ಥದ ಮೂಲಕ ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ.

ಹಿಂದೂ ಪುರೋಹಿತರು ಮತ್ತು ಕುಟುಂಬದವರ ಸಮ್ಮುಖದಲ್ಲಿ ಈ ಕಾರ್ಯಕ್ರಮವನ್ನು ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆಯ ಕೆಲವು ದಿನಗಳ ಮುನ್ನ ಈ ಕಾರ್ಯಕ್ರಮವನ್ನು ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಅಂತೆಯೇ ವಿವಾಹದ ದಿನಾಂಕವನ್ನು ಈ ಸಂದರ್ಭದಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ನಿಗದಿ ಪಡಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಎರಡೂ ಮನೆಯವರು ಸಿಹಿ ಮತ್ತು ಬಟ್ಟೆ ಹಾಗೂ ಆಭರಣಗಳನ್ನು ಇಲ್ಲಿ ವಿನಿಮಯ ಮಾಡುತ್ತಾರೆ. ವಿವಾಹದ ದಿನವನ್ನು ಈ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಗೊತ್ತುಪಡಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಮತ್ತು ಹಿರಿಯರು ಹುಡುಗ ಹುಡುಗಿಯನ್ನು ಆಶೀರ್ವದಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ.

The holy month of KARTHIKA is considered a very auspicious month. It starts with DEEPAWALI and ends with KARTHIKA AMAVASYA. During the entire month, Lord Shiva is worshiped with great reverence and prayers are offered. It is also known as PURUSHOTTAMA MASA, as it is believed that LORD SHIVA and LORD VISHNU exist together during this holy month. The Significance of the holy KARTHIKA month is marked by DEEPARADHANA - THE LIGHTING OF THE LAMPS. Fasting is undertaken on Mondays, Karthik EKADASHI and on Karthika Pournami. Offering Prayers to Lord Shiva, performing RUDRABHISHEKHA , BILVAPOOJA and reciting the VISHNU SAHASRANAMA during this Holy Month will bring great benefits and will absolve us from all our sins.

Tulsi Vivah (Telugu : తులసి కళ్యాణం Tulasi Kaḷyāṇaṁ) is a Hindu festival in which a ceremonial marriage of the Tulsi (Holy Basil) with god Shaligram or Amla branch (personifications of Vishnu) is held. The Tulsi wedding signifies the end of the monsoon and the beginning of the wedding season in Hinduism. Offer haldi and kumkum to Lord Vishnu and Tulsi Maa. Then offer the chunri, shringar samagri to Goddess Tulsi and mauli and janeu to Lord Vishnu. Offer one of the garlands to Tulsi after touching Lord Vishnu's idol/image with it. Then offer the other garland to Lord Vishnu after touching the Tulsi plant with it.

November is best known for Thanksgiving and Veterans Day, but it's packed with an abundance of special days of awareness and observances to celebrate.

• November 1st – All Saints Day
• November 3rd – Sandwich Day
• November 3rd – U.S. General Election Day
• November 7th – Book Lovers Day (first Saturday of the month)
• November 10th – Young Readers Day (second Tuesday of the month)
• November 11th – Veterans Day
• November 13th – World Kindness Day
• November 17th – World Peace Day
• November 21st – National Adoption Day (Saturday before Thanksgiving)
• November 23rd – Eat a Cranberry Day
• November 26th – Thanksgiving!
• November 27th – Black Friday!

Important Days and Dates in December 2021

Date

Name of Important Days

1 December

World AIDS Day

2 December

National Pollution Control Day

2 December

International Day for the Abolition of Slavery

3 December

World Day of the Handicapped

4 December

Indian Navy Day

5 December

International Volunteer Day

5 December

World Soil Day

7 December

Armed Forces Flag Day

7 December

International Civil Aviation Day

9 December

International Anti-Corruption Day

10 December

Human Rights Day

11 December

International Mountain Day

14 December

National Energy Conservation Day

16 December

Vijay Diwas

18 December

Minorities Rights Day in India

18 December

International Migrants Day

19 December

Goa's Liberation Day

20 December

International Human Solidarity Day

22 December

National Mathematics Day

23 December

Kisan Diwas

24 December

National Consumer Rights Day

25 December

Christmas Day

25 December

Good Governance Day (India)

31 December

New Year's Eve

There are plenty of reasons to jump on the December wedding bandwagon. For starters, it's "the most wonderful time of year." The holiday season is in full swing, and it's an especially great time to plan your celebration because the season isn't over-run with weddings.

While this may appear to suggest that your ancestors chose the special date for its romantic meaning, the reality was usually rather more practical. During the 18th and 19th centuries, getting married on Christmas Day itself was a popular tradition, with churches holding festive nuptials every 25 December.

The month of December is all about forgiving, giving chances and confessing your true feelings to 'the one' before it's too late. And if one does, the next year goes by with beautiful memories to come. December is the first month of winter in the northern half of the world. In the southern half, it is the first month of summer.

Christmas means the Mass of Christ and is one of the central holy days for Christians. They believe Jesus Christ was born on December 25, on Christmas Day. The night before is known as Christmas Eve.

December was a month of celebration even before Christendom: In Roman times, the mid-winter festival of Saturn was celebrated – the Saturnalia. It was a time of feasting and merry-making; even slaves and their masters switched places for a while

The New Year is a time to celebrate the victories of the past year, the defeats that you overcame and all the hurdles that you decided to face and conquer for yourself. While New Year’s eve is a great time to celebrate, the next day or the first day of the year is also an amazing and important day that is celebrated by different people in different ways. From traditional customs, seeking blessings from elders, get-togethers and greetings, different people follow different traditions to get the luck and good fortune that they wish for! While some places see the illumination of lights and fireworks to mark the 'last holiday' of the year, people from places like Japan and Spain eat special food items like soba noodles, grapes, lentils to invite good luck.

Like every year, this year, too, Makar Sankranti will fall on January 14. On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life. Like every year, this year, too, Makar Sankranti will fall on January 14. On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life.   On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life.Sankranti is celebrated on 3 days.

• Day 1 – Maghi (preceded by Lohri), Bhogi Panduga.
• Day 2 – Makara Sankranti, Pongal, Pedda Panduga, Uttarayana, Magh Bihu.
• Day 3 – Mattu Pongal, Kanuma Panduga.

January is the first month of the year in the Julian and Gregorian calendars and the first of seven months to have a length of 31 days. The first day of the month is known as New Year's Day. Pros: January, as the first month of the year, represents new beginnings.  January was named after Janus, the Roman god of all beginnings; Janus is depicted with two faces, one looking into the past, the other with the ability to see into the future.So if you want to highlight that your wedding is a new milestone and a fresh start as a newly-wed couple ,then January is the best month to do it.

January month : Weddings in India vary according to the region, the religion, the community and the personal preferences of the bride and groom. They are festive occasions in India, and in most cases celebrated with extensive decorations, colour, dresses, music, dance, costumes and rituals that depend on the community, region and religion of the bride and the groom, as well as their preferences.[1] India celebrates about 10 million weddings per year,[2] of which about 80% are Hindu weddings. While there are many festival-related rituals in Hinduism, vivaah (wedding) is the most extensive personal ritual an adult Hindu undertakes in his or her life.[3][4] Typical Hindu families spend significant effort and financial resources to prepare and celebrate weddings. The rituals and process of a Hindu wedding vary depending on region of India, local adaptations, resources of the family and preferences of the bride and the groom. Nevertheless, there are a few key rituals common in Hindu weddings – Kanyadaan, Panigrahana, and Saptapadi; these are respectively, gifting away of daughter by the father, voluntarily holding hand near the fire to signify impending union, and taking seven steps before fire with each step including a set of mutual vows. After the seventh step and vows of Saptapadi, the couple is legally husband and wife.

February is the second month of the year in the Julian and Gregorian calendars. The month has 28 days in common years or 29 in leap years, with the 29th day being called the leap day.

• Its birth flowers are the violet (Viola), the common primrose (Primula vulgaris),] and the Iris.Its birthstone is the amethyst. It symbolizes piety, humility, spiritual wisdom, and sincerity. The zodiac signs for the month of February are Aquarius (until February 20) and Pisces (February 20 onwards)
  Valentine's Day
  Valentine's Day. On February 14, Americans celebrate love and friendship by exchanging cards, flowers, and candy. Although the origins of Valentine's Day are murky, ancient Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia, a spring festival, on the fifteenth of February.

February is the second month of the year in the Julian and Gregorian calendars. The month has 28 days in common years or 29 in leap years, with the 29th day being called the leap day. The month is named for the Latin word februum which means purification. Together with January, it was the last of the months added to the Roman calendar. The largest American sporting event of the year, the Super Bowl, is held in February. The Saxon term for the month, Sol-monath, means "cake month". February is the month of love – a time for Valentine's Day and remembering love – emphasizing the importance of love in our lives.

February is the month of love – a time for Valentine's Day and remembering love – emphasizing the importance of love in our lives. Romance is in the air and lovebirds across the globe are fluttering with special ideas as we enter February, the month of love, courtesy the universal celebrations of Valentine's Day on February 14. On 14 February every year, Valentine's Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine is observed. Love bloosoms  in February  month  and so more marriages !  February is often known for being a month dedicated to and all about love. But February is not only about valentines and sweethearts; instead it can also be a month for self-love and self-care, fostering relationships with family and friends, and loving others.

February, the month of love and romance, is also the shortest. This is the perfect time to rekindle the subdued mood after New Year and Christmas Parties!  Get married!

February has the day of lovers, Valentine’s Day, the weather is just perfect to set the mood and the year is still fresh and new! So, if you have already found the love of your life, the soul-mate, the one you want to grow old with, be ready to get married.

Mahashivratri, “The Great Night of Shiva” is the most significant event in India’s spiritual calendar.

The fourteenth day of every lunar month or the day before the new moon is known as Shivratri. Among all the twelve Shivratris that occur in a calendar year, Mahashivratri, the one that occurs in February-March is of the most spiritual significance. On this night, the northern hemisphere of the planet is positioned in such a way that there is a natural upsurge of energy in a human being. This is a day when nature is pushing one towards one’s spiritual peak. It is to make use of this, that in this tradition, we established a certain festival which is nightlong. To allow this natural upsurge of energies to find their way,one of the fundamentals of this nightlong festival is to ensure that you remain awake with your spine vertical throughout the night.

A wedding is a very personal affair and that’s how it should be. The most important thing to get right in a wedding is not the planning, not the honeymoon, and not the attire, it’s perfecting the act of getting both the families together and merging them into one big family. There are many blogs which share their thoughts about wedding to the readers.In this I mention about 2 such blogs.  Frugal2fab . It’s a very well-designed blog that literally has all the information that you need about wedding shopping in India- right from the brands to the location to the price ranges. And there’s even a completely separate section for all the celebrity wedding gossip that you so crave.  It is one of the coolest and personalized Indian wedding blogs. In Maharani Weddings, we  will come across articles of real-life couple stories with beautifully shot pictures in scenic wedding locations in India. If not anything else, you will definitely remember to hire a great photographer for the wedding. Also, if you’re an NRI getting married abroad, this could be your go-to blog. With focused guides and beautiful wedding stories this blog will definitely be up your speed.

The history marks the day of Ram Navami to be the birth occasion of Lord Sri Rama. The occasion of Sri Ram Navami or also known as Chaitra Navmi is not the birthday as popularly told but is the appearance day of Lord Ram. But at the same time, they also believe in celebrating the marriage ceremony of Lord Sri Rama and Mata Sita as a part of the rituals during the auspicious days.Lord Rama was the embodiment of truth and morality.He was a rightious  king,an ideal son ,an ideal husband and a loving brother.He is considered as an eternal symbol of human ideals. There are a good number of nuptials that happen in spring and for a good reason too. Spring months are loved dearly for the mostly good weather after a lonely winter.

Tying the knot in spring has a lot of benefits. Some of them include:

• Beautiful spring décors, such as fresh greenery, uncommon blossoms, and pastel colors
• More attendants on your wedding with more family members and friends available during the spring break
• Whether it is a destination wedding, a garden, or a church one, knowing about the problems you may encounter is a must. That way we can have a proper wedding planning session that anticipates anything that could wrong.   

  Tying the knot in spring has a lot of benefits. Some of them include:

  • Beautiful spring décors, such as fresh greenery, uncommon blossoms, and pastel colors
  • More attendants on your wedding with more family members and friends available during the spring break
  • Best wedding ideas available for an indoor or outdoor wedding

Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are primarily selected by individuals other than the couple themselves, particularly by family members such as the parents. In some cultures a professional matchmaker may be used to find a spouse for a young person.  Arranged marriages serve some functions in the Indian community: (1) helps maintain the social satisfaction system in the society; (2) gives parents control, over family members; (3) enhances the chances to preserve and continue the ancestral lineage; (4) provides an opportunity to strengthen the family bondage. Arranged marriages provide equal stature, financial stability, cultural identity and the same opinions among partners and families, so, there is very less chance of disputes. The only downside to this is that partners do not know each other nor do they love each other before the marriage; well, most of the times.

The Indian subcontinent has historically been home to a wide variety of wedding systems. Some were unique to the region, such as Swayamvara (which was rooted in the historical Vedic religion and had a strong hold in popular culture because it was the procedure used by Rama and Sita). In a swayamvara, the girl's parents broadcast the intent of the girl to marry and invited all interested men to be present in a wedding hall on a specific date and time. 55% of the marriages that occur in the world today are arranged marriages. The rate of arranged marriages in India is 90%. In an arranged marriage, the man is usually 4.5 years older than the woman in the formed relationship The practice of arranged marriages began as a way of uniting and maintaining upper caste families.   Arranged marriages serve six functions in the Indian community: (1) helps maintain the social satisfaction system in the society; (2) gives parents control, over family members; (3) enhances the chances to preserve and continue the ancestral lineage; (4) provides an opportunity to strengthen the families. Arranged marriages provide equal stature, financial stability, cultural identity and the same opinions among partners and families, so, there is very less chance of disputes. The only downside to this is that partners do not know each other nor do they love each other before the marriage; well, most of the times.

 Mother's Day was first celebrated in the US, in 1908 when a woman named Anna Jarvis wished to celebrate Mother's Day as a recognised holiday to honour her mother, Ann Reese Jarvis who was a peace activist and had passed away three years prior.

A country of Gurdwaras and Temples, a country of many festivals and events, a country of weddings and rituals is what India is known as beyond all its famous facets. The relations here are well celebrated with great pomp and show. Marriage or wedding is basically a celebration of love and commitment, a celebration of all new customs and traditions that anyone can experience at least once in their lifetime. India is a land of so many religions and faith that differs from each other in their rituals. And moving on the parallel lines, are the traditions and rituals of marriage that differs from place to place and from religion to religion.   There are a few of the Hindu wedding rituals and traditions, right from Shagun to Bidaai.Important rituals are

1. Confirmation Of The Wedding Date
2. Pre-Party – Sangeet Ceremony
3. Mehendi Ceremony
4. A Mandap Is Decorated
5. Exchange Of Floral Garlands During Jai Mala
6. A Sacred Fire is Burnt in the Center of the Mandap
7. The Kanyadaan Ceremony
8. The Saptapadi – To Circle Around The Fire
9. The Sindoor Ceremony
10. The Ceremony Of Mangalsutra

Punjabis are simple yet fun-loving people who believe in expressing their emotion with gusto.Punjabi weddings are colorful, loud, sometimes over the top, fun filled with lots of opportunities for singing and dancing one’s heart out. Punjabi weddings may be simple or lavish, but they ensure unlimited fun and celebration. . From elaborate lehengas to the noisy baratis, the ‘dance till you drop’ Sangeet to the extremely friendly and warmly-welcoming host, a Punjabi wedding is akin to a true roller-coaster. Let’s take a look at the various wedding Ritual Roka and Thaka – When all aspect of the marriage looks satisfactory the bride’s family visits the groom’s place to offer the groom their blessing along with various gifts for the family like fruits, sweets, clothes, money also known as shagun etc. This custom is known as the Roka& when the groom reciprocates ,its called Thaka. Mangni/Sagai– This ceremony marks the official engagement between the couple. Shagun and Chunni Chadai – To mark the acceptance of the bride into the groom’s family, the Chunni Ceremony is observed. Sangeet – The Sangeet is a musical party generally arranged by the bride’s family.   Mehendi – Mehendi is an indispensible part of Punjabi wedding ceremony. The bride sits down on a special stool and henna paste is applied to her hands and feet. The henna designs are intricate and elaborate, and the groom’s initials are hidden amidst the various patterns.

Wedding Attires

The Punjabi groom traditionally wears a set of Kurta Pajama to the wedding. The Kurtas may also be paired with churidar trousers. Punjabi brides are known to go for other colors like green, gold, fuchsia and orange. She pairs the lehenga with a matching dupatta with which she covers her head.Wedding day also many rituals are followed.

Emerging out of one of the oldest cultures of India, Tamil Brahmin weddings emphasize the celebration of heritage and customs over displays of grandeur. A kaleidoscopic guide to different regional cultures, spanning rituals, customs, fashion and more.

Wedding Functions

Panda Kaal Muhurtam
Once the wedding is finalized, the bride and groom’s families offer their prayers to their deity and seek blessings for a successful marriage and for the protection of the couple. Mostly held a day before the wedding, it is attended by close family members and generally held at a temple or their homes. Sumangali Prarthanai
Sumangalis are women who have led happy, fulfilled married lives. Married older relatives and friends of the bride take part in this prayer ceremony, and invoke the blessings of their late female ancestors for the bride’s happy married life. The same ritual is performed at the groom’s home to bless the new bride joining their family. Vrutham
Generally held on the morning of the day before the wedding, the Vrutham signifies the groom’s transition from bachelorhood to being a married man. A sacred thread stained yellow with turmeric is tied around his wrist to ward off evil energy. A similar ritual is done for the bride. Nichayathartham
The formal engagement ceremony in Tamil Weddings, sees the groom and his family arriving at the bride’s home with gifts for her such as a saree and jewellery. She is seated and an aarti is performed, and the sumangalis (married women) tie grains, betel nuts, turmeric, and coconuts in the pallu of her saree. A similar ritual is done for the groom, where he is presented with special clothes as well. The couple then change into their new clothes and do the ring ceremony. Gauri Puja
Once dressed, this ritual is done by the bride to Goddess Gauri, who represents purity and virtue. An idol is placed on a plate with rice and kumkum, and the bride prays and seeks blessings from her for a happy marriage Kashi Yatra
An ancient custom rooted in history, the Kashi yatra is one of the most delightful rituals of a Tamil wedding. Once the groom’s family reaches the venue, the groom grabs an umbrella, walking stick, and food to head to Kashi (Benaras) to renounce worldly pleasures and dedicate his life to god. As everyone looks on, the father of the bride then convinces him to choose a life of domestic bliss instead of being a hermit and promises to give his daughter’s hand to him. . Pada Puja
The groom arrives at the mandap, where the father of the bride washes his feet holy water, sandalwood, milk and kumkum. Kanyadaanam
A ritual common to every culture in the world, the Kanyadaanam marks the official giving away ceremony of the bride by her parents to the groom. He is made to sit on the floor where his feet are washed by the bride’s father, who sits opposite him with the bride in his lap. He supports her hands holding a coconut which is then offered to the groom, as her mother pours holy water over it. With this gesture, they officially hand over their daughter for life, asking him to cherish her and protect her. The bride and groom’s hands are tied with a sacred thread to seal their union. Muhurtham
After the Kanyadaanam, the groom’s parents gift the bride a nine-yard silk saree to welcome her into their family, which is draped around her shoulders while the groom applies sindoor on her hair parting. The bride then changes into the new saree and returns for a few more rituals. The thaali (South Indian equivalent of mangalsutra) is then blessed by the priest and tied around her neck by the groom. The first two knots of the Thaali are put in by the groom, while the third and the final one is put in by the groom’s sister. Saptapadi
The bride and the groom hold hands and take seven steps around the holy fire while the priest chants Vedic mantras in Saptapadi, one of the most important rituals in a Hindu marriage. The groom then holds the bride’s left toe as she steps over a grindstone, symbolizing the solidity of their union.

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  Kerala undoubtedly has the most breathtaking scenic beauty with beautiful backwaters and a gorgeous backdrop. And this beautiful state has unique wedding customs too. Here are all the pre-wedding rituals, wedding rituals that make the Kerala Hindu wedding a grand affair and one of a kind.

1. Muhurtham

In this pre-wedding ritual, the Kundlis of the bride and groom are matched by an astrologer to see whether the match is viable or not. And, if the Kundlis are a match, then a Muhurath, which is an auspicious and holy date for the wedding to take place.

2. Nischayam

This pre-wedding ceremony of the Kerala Hindu wedding is the engagement. Here, both the families make an official announcement of the wedding in front of all the people.

3. Traditional Party

Before the wedding ceremony, the bride's family organises a party for the guests. The traditional party offers a delicious vegetarian meal for the guests to savour.

4. Madhuparkam Ritual

In this ritual, when the groom reaches the wedding venue, he and his family members are warmly welcomed and the bride's father washes the feet of the groom. The groom gives his in-laws a white saree that the bride is supposed to wear during the wedding ceremonies.

5. Kanyadaanam

All the wedding ceremonies are performed in front of a Veli (holy fire). The couple goes around the Veli three times and then the groom ties a Taali (yellow necklace) around the bride's neck. After this, the actual Kanyadaanam ritual is done, where the bride's father hands over his daughter's hand in the hands on the groom. This signifies that he is handing over the responsibilities of his daughter over to him.

6. Sparsham Ritual

In this wedding ritual, the groom is made to sit on the floor in a way that he faces the bride and their foreheads touch. The priest chants and asks the bride to put rice in the Veli. After this, the groom puts the bride's foot on the Ammi (grinding stone) to signify that she is breaking ties with her family and stepping onto a new family.

7. Sadhya

In this wedding ritual, once all the other rituals are over with, all the guests sit down together to enjoy a grand feast of traditional dishes.

The Telugu wedding ceremony is the traditional wedding ceremony of the Telugu people in India and those Telugu people who reside in other parts of the world. Telugu Weddings  are now a mix of classic events like Pellikuturu, Pellikoduku, Mangala Snanam etc. and modern introductions like Mehndi and Sangeet.

Telugu Wedding ceremonies are vibrant, detailed & colourful festivities full of meaning and tradition. Like all Hindu wedding ceremonies, the events aim to culminate with the physical, spiritual, and emotional union of the couple. There is also heavy emphasis on the new bond between the two families and the celebration of their journey together.

Weddings in the state of Karnataka are mostly simple affairs, focused mainly on traditional rituals and less of pomp and show. Kannadigas prefer to adhere to age old traditions when it comes to weddings. The rituals vary slightly in different regions and among various communities of Karnataka, but the basic structure of the entire event remains the same. Kannada weddings are relatively short and share many rituals with neighboring states like Maharashtra and Andhra Pradesh. Kannada weddings generally take place during the daytime and are comparatively short 1-2 days event. Given below are the wedding rituals of a Kannada wedding.

Pre-wedding Rituals

Nischay Tamulam –  Parents of the groom visit the bride’s place and offer her a saree, blouse piece, coconut and sweets. The bride’s parents also visit the groom’s house to gift him dhoti, coconut, fruits and sweets. The date of the marriage is generally decided by the priest during this event.

Naandi – A few days prior to the wedding, the Naandi ceremony is performed in both the bride and groom’s places. It is basically a puja performed by the family priest to ensure that the wedding ceremony goes without any hitches or problems. A traditional copper pot or kalash filled with holy water is placed with a coconut on top, and this marks the beginning of the wedding celebrations. Kaashi Yaatre – This is a really fun-filled ritual when the groom pretends to get angry that no one is searching for a suitable bride for him. He threatens his family that he will set out for a pilgrimage to Kashi carrying a walking stick, a dhoti, an umbrella, a fan, and edibles like a coconut along with some rice. As he is about to leave the house, the groom’s maternal uncle stops him and convinces him not to leave and puts forward the girl that had been chosen for him.  The groom relents on hearing this and decides to come back home to get married to his bride. The groom dresses up in a white veshti or dhoti worn in typical south Indian style around the waist. The wedding attire of the bride is highly ornamental. She wears a traditional 9 yards long Naavari Saree. They wear green glass bangles along with the saree and are similar with Maharashtrian bride in this respect.  Var Puja – In Hindu traditions, the groom is considered to be the reincarnation of Lord Vishnu. In that respect, he is worshipped by the bride’s party. He is accompanied to the wedding mandap by his future father-in-law and is asked to a seat of prominence. His feet are then washed by the bride’s father and a puja is performed in his honor. He is also presented with a set of silk dhoti and scarf known as pitambar. He is to take part in the wedding rituals wearing the clothes presented to him by the bride’s parents. Dhareherdu –  The bride’s right hand is placed on the groom’s right hand and a coconut along with a betel leaf is placed on top of the joined hands. The bride’s parents shower their blessings and approval of this union by pouring holy water, preferably from the River Ganges known as dhara on top of the couple’s joined hands.

Saptapadi – A nuptial knot is tied between the ends of the bride and groom’s attires signifying an unfailing bond established between two souls. The couple then circumambulates the sacred fire seven times; this ritual is termed as Saptapadi. Through these circumambulations, the bride follows the groom and together they utter the seven sacred vows of marriage. After the Saptapadi the couple sits down, with the bride sitting on the groom’s left and the groom ties the mangalsutra around the bride’s neck assisted by five Sumangalis or married women. This officially concludes the wedding, and the couple gets up and goes over to seek the blessings from the elders of both families.

An inviting food jugalbandhi with pristine and polished banana leaves, the crackling dolby effect of the very pompous nagaswarams, festoons overhead of mango leaves that never fade, Maamas and Maamis clad in Panchakachams and Madisars scurrying around like beautiful Gandharvas... VANTHANAM. The bride’s parents wait outside the marriage hall with coconuts, flowers, Thamboola with two conical structures called ‘Paruppu Thengai Urundai” (made of Dhal, jaggery, coconut) to receive the groom and his family for the wedding.VIRATHAM

The main part of the wedding starts with ‘Viratham’.

This ceremony is performed by both the families to invoke their family deities and ancestors. A ‘Kappu’ is tied around the wrists of both the bride and the groom, and the yellow thread should not be untied until the wedding is over. The Kaapu is supposed to ward off evil spirits by acting as a protective armour for both the bride and the groom.

From hereon, the groom prepares himself for his new phase of life as a ‘Grihastha’.

JAANAVASAM

Or the ‘Maapilai Azhaippu’. A pooja ceremony happens at a temple nearby, and then the groom is taken on a procession to the mantap to accept the bride. The procession these days is in a car, but in the olden days the procession used to be (sometimes) on elephants (gasp). The Januvasam is to ‘show’ the groom to the public, and allow to voice their objections if any, to the marriage.

NICHAYATHARTHAM

Or the engagement ceremony. Once the groom reaches the venue, a formal engagement ceremony takes place. A Ganapathi Pooja is performed, and a final formal agreement is made between the bride’s and the groom’s family.

KASI YATRA

After the recitation of Vedic verses, the groom, all well clad in Panchakancham, starts his journey towards Kasi (Varnasi) to expand his knowledge of Brahman. The groom sets off towards the gate, with his slippers, a bamboo fan, and an umbrella. The bride’s father stops him on the way, and convinces him of the importance of being a ‘Grihastha’, and also promises to give him his daughter as his companion to face the trials and tribulations in life.

EXCHANGE OF GARLANDS / MAALAI MATRUTHAL

The Maternal uncles lift the Bride and the Groom respectively to their shoulder levels enabling for easy exchange of garlands. While thrice they exchange, fun is also added making garlanding one another difficult . The couple are then made to sit in an oonjal (swing), lots of songs are sung, and the bride and the groom are served with paalikai (a mixture of banana, milk and sugar) by women from both the families. The women also prepare rice balls with turmeric, and circle them around the couple. The rice balls are thrown in all the four directions to ward off evil spirits. The groom is then asked to hold the right hand of the bride, and lead her to the marriage dais..KANYATHANAM The bride is made to wear the Madisar or the ‘Koorai Pudavai’, and made to sit on her father’s lap facing eastward. The groom faces westward, and ties the mangalyam around the neck of the bride. “Getti melam”, the bride’s uncle would say and this signals the nagaswaram and thavil artists to speeden their tempo up. A total of 3 knots are tied around the bride’s neck. The first knot tied by the husband formalises their union, the second and the third knots are tied by the groom’s sister to symbolize the welcoming of the bride into her family. Sapthapadhi The bride and the groom now hold hands and pray for their eternal happiness. The groom also helps the bride to take seven steps around the sacred fire, and this ritual is called the ‘sapthapathi’. This is the most important part of the marriage ceremony, and only after the sapthapathi are the bride and groom ‘officially’ married.